Hey there! This is resinFiend. I see you’ve stumbled across this blog!
Far too often, folks complain about things they don’t understand. One of the biggest triggers of flame wars is something ridiculously simple, something the human race will never get away from.
Nothing seems to incite such anger and bomb-throwing as that simple, three-letter word. Especially in the Cosplay community.
However, those that belittle and insult our ample-bodied brothers and sisters never seem to give an example of what should have been done, only attacking what some poor, plump cosplayer DID do.
I hope to help.
This will be a blog focused on showcasing well-done cosplays by overweight individuals, as well as answering questions and giving advice on the subject of heavy cosplay. This is a supportive, friendly blog. No Hate Here, not even on thin people. Everyone deserves respect, regardless of size.
A few points that will be mentioned often, and dictate the content of this blog are:
The word Fat is not an insult.
It’s a state of being. Many people have thrown the term intending to hurt. Don’t let it. It shouldn’t hold any heavier meaning than someone saying “You’re a brunette.” or “You’re pale.”. Folks like to use euphemisms such as “chubby” or “heavy”. These are fine, but don’t be hurt by the description “fat”.
Your body does not need to limit you, you just have to be smart.
“Fat girls shouldn’t show their arms.”
“Fat guys look ugly with long hair.”
“You shouldn’t let your legs show, you’re too fat.”.
These are all things I have heard said. They are not true. These stereotypical statements have a root in those overweight folks who don’t take care of themselves. Yeah, that 400lb woman at walmart with the daisy dukes and cami (a cami is underwear, dammit, you wear it under shirts) really could have made a better choice. Not only are her arms showing, so is her fleshy back and whoops! I can see the underside of her belly. Fat Comic Book Guy has long hair, and really needs to wash it. The million spider veins across the back of that teenager’s legs may be distracting from her cute sundress.
The people who make the above statements let a few bad examples dictate their views. The common link among bad clothing choices was fat, so they assume the weight was the culprit behind those folks looking terrible. The truth is, just as many thin folks have funny looking body parts, and forget to wear deodorant or wash their hair. Plump upper arms are cute, any guy with long, well-groomed hair can be sexy, and if you’ve got the veins, wear the hose (I have actually worn concealer on the backs of my knees, hurr hurr). They key is looking sharp, not hiding your weight.
Weight and health are not as connected as everyone likes to think, and no one has the right to insult you because of feigned interest in your “health”. It’s your body, your rules. If you didn’t ask for their advice, smile, nod, and let them pass.
Above all, your behavior is the major factor. If you come to me wondering why folks were hating on your cosplay, and it turns out you were screeching about your pairing favorites to anyone and everyone who would listen, were spanking people with “yaoi paddles”, and generally acted like an ass, I will redirect you to weaboostories.tumblr.com because being a jackass has nothing to do with your weight. Humans LOVE to project, so if they don’t quite know how to insult your behavior, they’ll latch right on to the next perceived flaw, your weight. While unfair, it is what it is, and if you give cause to be insulted, it’s your own doing.
If, however, you were polite, used your indoor voice, kept everyone’s personal space intact, and were simply sinning with your appearance, then we’ll figure it out and possibly take up arms for you.
These are not all necessarily cosplay related. However, they are hot-button topics, which WILL arise in anything having to do with the overweight community.
Now, let’s have fun!