Anonymous said: I'm having a hard time understanding this, and it seems to come up a lot here. Why is it so commonplace for people to be apprehensive about what other people think of their costumes, to the point of things like fear? I can see wanting to accurately represent a character that means a lot to you, but that goes beyond mere weight. I'm about 330 lbs and this reaction from far smaller people seems very odd to me. Why be blockaded by haters?

I’m extremely, genuinely happy for you that you have not experienced what I am about to convey or are able to overcome it easily. That is definitely a blessing you should tack on your mental corkboard for hard times.

The thing is, the fear is sometimes warranted. MANY, I would argue MOST, overweight individuals, female-identified in the majority, are emotionally vilified, attacked, slandered, made assumptions about, and otherwise cruelly harmed by others for their weight and appearance. In a highly visual (and competitive) hobby like cosplay, the risk of being scorned or ostracized (or even being ATTACKED PHYSICALLY, I have seen this at a con) for having the gall to be fat AND cosplay is extremely high. 

Outside of bedrooms, no one ENJOYS pain. Sometimes the high-and-mighty attackers can be fended off by the victim being apologetic, all but telling the attacker “I am sorry for offending your eyes, please leave me be and I’ll do you no more harm, I know I am bad”. Even if this is said without sincerity, it can spare the risk of a single attacker becoming a pack, when a vicious hater becomes frustrated by a confident fatty and feels the need to “take them down.”

None of this is good at all, of course, and I wish with all my heart that these guys and gals didn’t feel the need for preventative measures like this, but survival at this point in the weight-acceptance game is often a priority for those who are just starting to open up to the concept of loving their (perfect) bodies.